The above statement is easier said than done,
but it doesn’t make it any less true.
Most people struggle with feelings of self worth
from time to time.
Some more often than others,
some more intensely.
We tell ourselves we want to be loved, liked,
valued and appreciated. Right?
We ask ourselves why doesn’t anyone tell me
how important I am to them, or how good
I make them feel…. how much I mean to them…
The Rub: When someone pays us
a compliment we argue the point (if only in our mind).
Why is it so difficult to simply say, “Thank you”?
I am fully cognizant of the circular nature of the issue.
That is, what we need the most
are the very things we do not believe we “deserve”.
So we discount them as false, lies or a line to get something from us.
Try this. The next time someone pays you a compliment,
just say “Thank you, I appreciate that.” And leave it at that.
Oh, it will be very uncomfortable to be sure. At first.
The fact is, it gets easier the more you do it.
Who knows, maybe some day you will begin to believe you
deserve a compliment or something good
and positive thoughts will supplant all those lies
you’ve become conditioned to believe for as long as you can remember.
Really, what do you have to lose? Pain, sadness, loneliness??
What is there to gain? Happiness, joy, fulfillment?
Sounds like a good trade even if you are only
50% successful, you are 50% better off than you are today.
I understand the comfort of the known, even the bad, can be
attractive compared to the unknown. I also know it is easier
said than done, but try. And……
Smile often. Even if you don’t feel like it. 🙂